Above is a picture of me in my friend Becky’s wedding last year. I am obviously in the middle of cracking a joke. I am often in this state as a bridesmaid as I try to help cut the tension with humor.
A bridesmaid stands by the bride not only at the altar but during the whole of her wedding. Historically, bridesmaids accompanied their bride as a sort of protective unit.
While the “ugly bridesmaid’s dress” might be a standard joke today, in Roman times the whole wedding party would often dress alike. This was to confuse evil spirits that might be trying to bring bad luck upon the couple.
It is a great honor to be chosen by a family member or a friend for this role, and I always hate to see someone not taking it seriously.
Because being a bridesmaid is a job. If you think of a wedding as a company, the bride is the CEO and the bridesmaids are her staff. While each may contribute according to her own ability, they must contribute.
They are also like the Board of Directors in that they will be expected to financially invest in the wedding. This can include not only the expected items such as a dress and a gift for the couple but also a specialty item such as a hairpiece.
Another key responsibility is the hosting (and sometimes funding) showers and parties. Check with your bride to see if she has a family member throwing her a shower or if she expects you to help pay for a bridal shower or bachelorette party (a more likely expense).
No matter what you wear, no matter what strange things you are forced to carry, no matter what, remember that you are there for your friend or family member on the most important day of their life.
And one day they might just be there for you!
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